When someone close to you is working through the emotional aftermath of an abortion, knowing how to support them can feel complicated. There’s no perfect script or timeline for how these conversations should unfold, but there are ways to offer meaningful help.
Life Light is here to help with no-cost, confidential support. As you navigate this journey with a loved one, know you aren’t alone.
Remember, Every Situation is Unique
One of the most important things you can do is respect your loved one’s sense of agency. After an abortion, emotions can be intense and unpredictable. While you may feel a strong urge to suggest counseling or support groups, your loved one must be the one who makes that decision.
Healing looks different for everyone, and they need to feel empowered to take that journey on their own terms.
Stay in Communication
Choosing when to talk is also key. The days and weeks after an abortion may be filled with unexpected emotional waves, and what feels like a good moment to you might not feel right for them.
Sometimes, the best conversations happen when the topic comes up naturally. If your loved one isn’t ready to talk, that’s okay. Let them know the door is open and you’re there when they are ready.
It’s also helpful to approach the conversation without assumptions. Listen first rather than telling them how they feel or what they should do. And when you start a conversation, you might begin by saying, “You mentioned something a few days ago that I’ve been thinking about.”
This allows them to express their feelings in their own words and gives you a clearer understanding of what they’re going through.
If they’re open to it and express interest, you can offer to help find resources or attend support sessions with them. Sometimes, just knowing someone will walk beside them makes a huge difference. Explore options together if they’re ready, and continue checking in, without pressure.
At the same time, remember to take care of yourself. Supporting someone after an abortion can be heavy, and you’ll be a better source of strength if you also prioritize your well-being.
Here to Provide Support
Life Light understands how complex post-abortion emotions can be for your loved one. We offer a compassionate space through a program called “Healing Hearts,” which provides both individual and group support. We’ll also walk alongside you as you learn how best to support them.
Reach out today to learn more or to schedule a confidential appointment.
Because we are pro-women and a non-profit, we do not provide or refer for abortion services
